In Part 1, we learned about 60 questions to ask oneself. We connected with questions about our daily habits, our dreams, our past, our feelings/emotions, and our future self. Now we will dive into 40 more. This time we will dive into questions relating to:
self growth,
self-confidence,
our relationships,
and personality.
Knowing yourself is one of the first steps to living an authentic life. If you’re feeling disconnected or are just curious to get to know yourself better, it may be time for some self-discovery. Finding more security in your identity is a long – sometimes lifelong – process, but it is definitely worth it.
As previously stated in our last blog, when you actually connect with yourself, you can see:
what you’re feeling and why,
why you react to things a certain way,
what you want to do with your life,
who you want to surround yourself with,
which experiences you want on your bucket list,
and so much more.
When I was stuck in life a few of years ago, I couldn’t even pinpoint what I didn’t like about what I was doing.
I kept looking for answers on the outside instead of devoting time to self-reflection; I was looking at what other “successful” people were doing and trying to replicate their moves instead of exploring what I actually wanted to do.
I learned that lesson the hard way because it took me years to actually know what was happening inside of me.
In this post, you’ll find 40 questions to get to know yourself to connect with your self confidence/worth, know yourself and paint a more or less complete picture of who you are today. “More or less complete” because you’re not static. You are constantly changing. You are constantly learning and unlearning things daily.
Grab a notebook and a pen, choose one or more of the categories below.
Let’s start with ten questions that are related to what you can start doing to grow as a person.
What does self-growth mean to you?
Do you consider yourself a self-aware person?
There’s always room for improvement in every area of life. Which actions can you take to improve yours?
When was the last time you took a risk? Was it worth it?
List three life lessons you’ve learned and will never forget.
Have you taken action to change, improve or leave situations (or people, habits, etc.) that add little to no value to your life? Do you have a plan to do so? If not, why not?
Do you think you communicate effectively? Why?
Do you consider yourself an emotionally intelligent person? If not, list the things you’d like to improve in that area.
Is the fear of judgment or failure stopping you from taking action? Which tiny steps can you take to start facing those fears?
Have you grown as a person in the last 12 months? How?
Now let us shift into a different direction. Let’s dive into 10 questions about our relationships: those that make you happy and those that don’t.
When you meet someone, what makes you instantly like/dislike them? What do you think is the reason behind that?
If your relationships with someone else improved, would you feel more at peace with yourself?
What can you do to improve or keep nurturing your relationships?
How do you express your feelings for people you care about or love? What’s your love language?
How do you feel about your most important relationships?
How often do you put yourself in other people’s shoes?
Describe the love partner you think you deserve.
What’s something you’d like to tell a loved one but haven’t found the courage to say?
Is there something you need to apologize for?
What do you blame your family for?
Now let’s get honest about how much you love and trust yourself; that’ll tell you a lot about yourself. Here are 10 more questions.
What’s something people see in you that makes them love you or look up to you?
What fear have you overcome, and how did you do it?
How would you describe a self-confident person? Which of those traits would you like to have?
What are the reasons you’re thankful for your body?
Make a list of 5 to 10 things you love about yourself.
Make a list of 3-5 things you’ve accomplished and feel proud of. It can be anything that was challenging for you, but you did anyway.
Do you speak up when you feel taken advantage of or abused?
What are you good at?
Are you taking care of your mental and physical health? How?
How often do you celebrate yourself and your accomplishments?
Finally, let’s get into 10 personality questions. Be gentle with yourself.
From 1-10, how self-confident are you? If it’s low, do you think your self-confidence is holding you back?
Which are your top 3 values in life?
Do you tend to act on your ideas, dreams, or goals to make them happen?
How do you behave under stressful situations?
From 1 to 10, how ambitious are you?
How do you deal with stressful situations and overwhelm?
How do you respond to criticism or feedback?
How do you react when something bothers you? Passive: just go with the flow and expect it to solve on its own. Aggressive: you get defensive and don’t think twice before making a fuss about it. Assertive: you focus on fixing the problem in a mature way and make compromises if necessary.
Do you tend to do things to impress others?
After answering all these questions, how would you describe yourself?
Why Is It Important to Know Yourself
Self-discovery has many benefits, but here are the top reasons why knowing yourself better is important.
It helps you:
get rid of bad habits that may take you down the wrong path.
live more intentionally because you know what you want and what you don’t
love and celebrate yourself
make peace with your past.
Reflecting on these questions will be an eye-opener for you. You will learn and unlearn so much about yourself.
You’ll see that one question will lead you to more than one answer if you keep writing and being honest. Be gentle with yourself and don’t overwhelm yourself with so many questions at once.
